Creating a Great Support Team
Your Support Team consists of the people you can count on – really count on – no matter how low you get or how high you fly. They are your cheerleaders – they champion your causes, encouraging, pushing, hugging and tugging you to a better place and eventually your definition of success. To make it through Single Mom Land, they're a necessity!
It's important to have this team in place, and the sooner the better. I am also positive you need to be a strong member of your own support team. You will be alone sometimes and it will be easy in those moments to say things to yourself that are simply not helpful. You can rely on others a lot, and you must also rely on yourself.
There are probably many people in your life that want to help yet are not quite sure what to do. Perhaps you want two hours to take a nap, or you simply need to do a bit more work to make ends meet. By all means reach out to your children’s friend’s moms and offer to trade play dates. I did exactly that when I moved to Nevada from Hawaii five years ago. I didn’t have a team of babysitters or know where to find any, and my closest family members were two thousand miles away. If you have family members or close friends that live nearby, ask them to help. Chances are your children are on their best behavior for other people (isn't that always the way?).
Here’s some great news: people want to help you! You may find that some will offer to help, others won’t. I know from personal experience that there are a number of people just waiting to feel useful, helpful and like they are making a difference. Now is your opportunity to allow them to give you that gift – a gift which you can pay forward a little later on.
Who is on your support team and how do they help you? What tips do you have to share in terms of keeping your sanity and getting the help you need? Leave your comments and I'll share them in an upcoming post.