Seriously, it's 2011. While there may be some women who believe that having children for a paycheck is the way to go, most single moms (myself included) became single moms by chance through divorce or even death. Believe me, being a single mom isn't always someone's first choice! Many times, the decision to leave an unhealthy relationship was made because of abuse or even a dangerous situation. Surely you wouldn't expect someone to stay in a situation that was harmful to themselves and/or their children, all so they could "keep the family together?"
Single moms face insecurities, doubts and struggles, often all alone. But we don't stop loving our children or trying to do the best for them. We carry on, keeping the lights on and frig full with a smile on our faces. We have made, are are making, the best decisions we possibly can for ourselves and our children. Frankly, it doesn't matter how a woman becomes a single mom. The fact is, she's a single mom and she's doing the best job she can. Period.
I agree with Ms. Danielle that there's been enough shaming. Honestly, if you don't have something nice to say about someone else or someone else's situation, find something else to talk about. There but for the grace of God goes you, and perhaps you could find it in your heart to have a little compassion. What a single mom needs is a hug, a hot bath, some chocolate and perhaps even a delicious home-cooked meal. Not your criticism. If you're not contributing to a situation, you're making it worse.
To all single moms: you are amazing! (More on that here.) You are proof that someone who sets their mind to something just gets it done. Bravo to you, and cheers to your amazing future.
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1 comments:
Thanks for blogging this. We have come a long way in the shaming but, we still have a way to go. As a single mom, there have been many times I felt unaccepted or judged in married mom circles. Doing an already tough job, on your own, deserves even more respect. One of the things I'm most proud of is raising great kids, despite divorce so here! here! to all the single parents who overcome the odds.
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