If you're a single mother, you may have to deal with a father who isn't very involved in your child's life. How you communicate with yourself is critical, and how you communicate the situation to your child is equally as important.
*Realize that no matter what you do, you can't force your child's father to be involved.
*Although having a father figure is important, it's not everything. As a good mother, you don't need a father to raise your child in a quality fashion. You're good enough all by yourself!
*Forcing a reluctant father to talk on the phone will only confuse your child.
*If you try to force a relationship with a father who doesn't want one, your child is bound to feel disappointed and rejected.
*Don't talk negatively about your child's father, but don't glorify him, either. Be matter-of-fact and age-appropriate. Consult a therapist if you need guidance and support.
*Leave the door open for responsible contact between the father and your child.
Again, having just one amazing, support and encouraging parent is enough!
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