Mastering SingleMommyHood Starts with One Simple Step

Ever wonder why someone who is great at what they do is great at what they do? It’s not always because they were born with some talent or natural ability (although that helps). The greats are great because they simply do what they want to be great at ... over and over and over.

They practice. Then, they practice some more. Once they've gotten good, they strive to improve, step-by-step, day-by-day, until they're great. As they do this, their creativity starts awakening, and they get trapped in the beautiful cycle of continuing to get better and better and better as they become masterful.

People who never become great fail to do so because they don't write their goals down. That means they always have them stuck in their head, they aren't taking action, and they have no “room” to think of ideas on how to act on them.

To become great, let's just start with the first step: writing down what you want. Let's get you in the habit of just taking that first step.

The following are some exercises you can do to start getting into the habit of writing things down.

1. Journaling.

Keep a journal of your life. Motivational Speaker Anthony Robbins said, “If your life is worth living, it’s worth recording.” So true. Nobody can write the story of your life better than you. Take time to remember the good memories of your life and do them justice. Don’t leave them to the chance of the fragile mind. Write down every detail using your five senses and do so on a nightly basis. You will find that you'll uncover things about yourself you never realized before.

2. Question and Answers.

Writing out a simple clear question and answers to it is another powerful, yet simple approach to get into the habit of writing things down. In the case of my daughter’s goal, writing her goal in the form of a question led to pretty good ideas. A high school kid could easily make a hundred bucks in profit on a weekend using the solution found above.

3. Mind Mapping.

I was first introduced to mind mapping when I read Tony Buzan’s book on the subject. I was blown away. It was very helpful. Mind mapping is an extremely powerful tool in terms of learning, brainstorming, and stimulating creativity.

It starts by you writing down a question, goal, or idea on the center of a piece of paper and circling it. Then you can start branching off answers, other ideas, or tangents by drawing lines from that center circle, writing down the other things that come to mind and circling them. Then you can expand from that circle or from other circles. Soon you will have a spider web of interconnected ideas.

For more information on mind mapping, you can use our trusty friend Google!

4. Your Own Pep Talk.

I think this step can be a fun and powerful tool to demonstrate the power of writing things down and can also get you into the habit of writing.

Most people nowadays are experts in self-criticism. To counter that thought process, try writing down a pep talk to yourself that you can refer to every time you need a boost.

Think of all the positive qualities you possess. Write them down! You know what’s going to happen? You free up room in your brain for more good qualities, which you write those down too. You start becoming creative and write down things you’ve never seen in yourself, causing the floodgates to start to open.

The result will be a masterpiece about yourself that you never knew existed.

Cherish your masterpiece about you, and be sure to add to it daily to become your own personal pep talk.

Writing is magic. It has the power to touch other people, to transform lives, to move people to take action, and to accomplish monumental dreams.

So what are you waiting for? Get into the habit of writing  down. Start writing down your goals.

I will now leave you with an exercise you can do that will transform your life from this day forward.

Step 1:

Write down one clear goal you would like to accomplish this year that will make the biggest impact on your life.

Step 2:

Write that goal down in the form of a clear question.

Step 3:

Write a list of answers on how you can accomplish the one goal you’ve chosen.

By doing these simple steps, you'll find that you will be more motivated to take action in accomplishing your goals, because they're not stuck in your head.

Write It Down -> Gets it Out of Your Head -> Write More Down -> Stimulates Your Creativity -> Great Ideas and Action Plans Start to Formulate -> Implement Them -> Achieve Your Goals --> Become masterful!

Your dreams and goals start to manifest the second you write them down, so write them down now. You’ll be glad you did.

Honorée has dedicated her life to being a positive force for good. She writes personal and professional growth and development books, and The Successful Single Mom book series. As an executive coach and corporate trainer, she turns service providers into rainmakers, average producers into rock-stars, and dreams into reality. For more information on how she can specifically help you or your organization, click here.