Dear Successful Single Mom,
I'm a single mom of two young children, and while their dad is active and around, he also has a drinking problem. He drinks every single day and I know for sure he's either drunk or has been drinking every time the kids get into his car. I'm terrified he's going to get arrested when he has the kids ... or something horrible is going to happen. I don't have the money to take him to court, and I know his involvement with them is critical. I just don't know what to do. What should I do?
-Terrified Single Mom
Breathe, that's my first suggestion. Have you had a conversation with him and shared how you feel? Depending upon how open the lines of communication are, I would suggest being honest. Another thought is that you could provide the transportation for your kids. Rather than having him pick them up, offer to drop them off. One mom I know suggested you alert the authorities when you know he's drinking and driving. Those with substance abuse issues rarely get help until they are ready, and sometimes the threat of jail is enough to start that process. Begin to document, if you're not already, what is happening and do your best to seek legal assistance and even therapy for yourself and your kids.
I wish you the best, The Successful Single Mom
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